just ask away. I am very detailed also. I have a 4"binder that i guard with my life. It has all my ideas and planning details in it. I made several sections with dividers such as budget, food menu, alcohol list, places to by a dress, shoes, jewlery, decoration ideas, prices, guest list, invitation list, and so on. All u have to do is just agree on what u want to have and how much of each category u can afford and make things look as if u paid hundreds. Great websites are: exclusively weddings, oriental trading, dollar tree, stumps party. For ex: i bought 142 flute champagne glasses for each guest and they look soooo real for $62.00. 142 silk chair covers and sashes for $200, and those can used over and over again as long as u take care of them. Make ur own menus and make them look professionally made, personalize ur own invitations. I did for a low low price from vistaprint.com., and sooooooo much more.