So far everything has been totally over the budget. I normally wouldnt mind its just that we have a baby on the way and have to save money for her as well. I also dont have a job. The reception hall that i found is nice and it only cost $600 to rent out. the problem is that the food will cost me $1900 for 75 guests. Should i make guests pay for their meals or find some place else?
It is inappropriate to ask your guests to pay for food.
However, since you are renting a hall, you can ask your close family members to help you with catering. Appoint five or six people to each make a large tray of a tasty dish. One could bring and chicken and rice dish. Another could bring a lasagne or a pasta dish. Another could make BBQ chicken wings. Another could bring a vegetable dish, like sliced squash, broccoli, carrots and peas in a white wine butter sauce along with a few dozen dinner rolls. Another could bring crudite and dip (assorted raw veggies with dipping sauce) and another could bring "pot stickers" (asian dumplings that come with a tasty plum or soy sauce). All of these things can be purchased in food warehouses such as "Costco" or "BJs Warehouse." Ask them in lieu of a gift, that if they make the meal and buy the sterno for their dish, that would go a long way to making your wedding successful (and tasty with a homemade flair). If you cook, make your own favorite dish, and you could get sternos at any 99 cents store.
What I would do is have your caterer bring in appetizers, such as spring rolls, mini quiches, pizzas, mini burgers, mini portions of mac and cheese and mini danishes and cookies. This could run about $900 or so for about 75 -100 people. You could save a lot by just catering appetizers and buy a nice sheet cake, wedding style from a local baker or order it from Costco as well. For flowers, I would get small potted flowering plants from Home Depot (they run about $10-20 apiece). Appoint a friend to take your photos or call a local photography school and ask if a student would be willing to shoot your wedding for about $200. They can give you a CD of photos and you can print them out later and make your own photo album.
For wedding favors and inexpensive invites, there are many do it yourself projects. You could also do a search on the internet for Ann's Wedding Bargains. They have "Send and Seal" invites which look great. Also log onto orientaltrading.com. Do a search for weddings. They have great trinkets for cheap prices.
Good luck! All the best to you and your family.