Well, weall know with the statistics that marriage isn't easy as being consider. Whatwas your best piece of advice that you will not forget forever?
Best advice l've ever received is look at that which annoys you, is it something you can tolerate for the rest of your life? Don't think you will change your spouse, you must be willing to love them as they are. lf you don't love that person heart, mind, body and soul, then keep seeking.
Be early, have lots of batteries, nothing goes exactly the way you plan things, have fun.
December 16, 2016
As a wedding venue owner and wedding planner I have seen it all. I have also been married and lost a spouse, so I get the "live each day as if it were your last". That may be hard to do, but is SO important. If you really love your future spouse, the details won't matter on the day of your wedding. The bliss of it all will overwhelm you. The biggest thing I see ruining weddings, is STRESS. So, whatever causes you stress, work on finding someone or a way to handle that part, before the wedding day. Whether it is a wedding planner or going to an all inclusive that does everything (except the photographer), or keeping it simple and being a DIY because you love doing that kind of thing. Plan to be able to do nothing but enjoy your friends and family that day. Seriously, NOTHING! Plan to have nothing really important to get taken care of at least 3 days before your wedding, preferably a week. We now offer all inclusive weddings because I felt so bad seeing all these stressed out brides, grooms, and mothers on the best day of their lives. Best wishes, Terian Farms
Do not try and plan this yourself. This is too important a day. I believe this is great advice. I have heard too many horror stories of wrong venue, wrong vendors selected, and overall not the outcome they wanted. Inexperience I guess can take you on this route.
October 2, 2016
The actual wedding event can get totally out of hand on price. Keep it simple and be respectful to whoever is paying for it. it's about the intimacy of the event that you are sharing with family and friends. It's not about all the foo foo and bling!
(1)BUY that wedding gown FIRST - get it out of the way; and (2)Keep the marriage/romance fresh by remaining honeymooners!
What you do AFTER the wedding is more important than the wedding itself.
San Marcos, TX
March 4, 2016
My aunt and uncle on my father's side and my husbands aunt and uncle on his father's side live in different parts of the United States. They both said the same thing, "As long as you are in a good marriage and not abusive, then stay true to each other as the grass is never greener on the other side."
November 17, 2015
Planning is the essential piece BUT the bottom line is "Will you be married the next day?"
This questions seems to deal with both the wedding and the marriage. For the wedding, hire a photographer! At the very least, have someone whose role it is to take photos.
As for the marriage, after 38 fabulous years, it can't be narrowed to one line of advice but the underlying approach should be to think as a couple and always be considerate. Don't share bad moments with friends or family -- keep them private. Make big decisions as a couple; decide together what "big decisions" are before they come up. Never, never embarrass your partner. Give at least one compliment a day. Do things for your spouse without expecting fanfare; it's the build up of these things that make a positive impact.
Treat each day as if it's your last, and really enjoy and appreciate one another, making each moment, each day of your life, memorable. That attitude will always reciprocated, and you will be appreciated much more than you know! And while you're greeting all you guests, at your wedding, and having your photos taken, hire a caricature artist to entertain, while you relax and enjoy!
Be slow to speak and quick to think. Accept the other person...it's who you fell in love with...do not try to change them. They were perfect, that's why you picked them. Say exactly what you mean.
April 27, 2015
Oddly, people seem to be giving wedding advice to a question about marriage. Weddings have become so overdone in my mind that I think too many people sacrifice the real point for one day of celebration. The ritual is important, but the marriage is the point.
I've been successfully married 33 years. I think expectations are everything. There is no reality, but only perception, so make sure you aren't idealizing marriage or your partner. I find love is not actually as important as "like". Be aware of more than the emotion because like choosing a puppy, love will almost always grow, but compatibility, similar values and goals, the willingness to compromise, being trustworthy and trusting are so much more important.
Feelings come and go. Commitment is what will see you thru the bad days. Never consider divorce and solutions become possible.
Make sure that you hire a wedding coordinator for your event so that you are not running around like crazy on a day that you should be enjoying !!! As a DJ I see this happen all the time and I can not stress how important it is and how overlooking this detail can cause alot of mishappenings in almost every aspect of the day !! Put someone in charge that can take charge .... and then let all your vendors and guests know the what and when. It runs so much better like this, I GUARANTEE IT !!!
January 22, 2015
There are many advises you get to hear about wedding and specially before getting married. I think the best would be to" stay together in thick and thin".
Uninc Henderson County, NC
October 16, 2014
Relax! Breathe and smile. This is a wonderful day of celebration - not a worry-fest! Plan ahead of time, but on the Big Day, let go of the little details - it will unfold in its own unique way and it WILL be beautiful!
June 19, 2014
My husband and I have been happily married since March 18, 1967 - yes, 47 years!!
The best piece of advice we got was on our honeymoon. We were in a little pub in Llangollen, Wales, when an old gentleman came up to us at the bar and asked "On honeymoon are you" We of course said yes. He said one piece of advice will take you through all your married life "Never, I mean Never go to bed angry at each other". We have stuck by that piece of advice and here we are 47 years later!!
Palm Springs, CA
May 12, 2014
The Best Piece of Advice I give in choosing a Photographer...Don't use an Ameuture who think they are a Professional. A Professional Photographer has many years of Experience. Get recommendations. View their Portfolio. Compare 'Apples to Apples', not 'Apples to Oranges'.
Set a Budget of at least 20-30% to hire the Best Professional Photographer.
Remember after "Your Big Day" is over, you will have 'Lasting Memories Forever' when Viewing your Photographs throughout the years!
Photography by Arlene Spring
Accept change. Accept that you will both change, not always for the better, and that through positive communication, you can change together.
Whenever you are planning for a wedding try not to over spend on any extra thing that would indirectly affect your budget and later you regret for things which you shouldn't.
The wedding usually is special to the bride because they get the dress, flowers, and a new ring and all of their fnends and family is there. The biggestthing not to forget is its his big day too. I get so mad at commercials advertising to just brides because the wedding is about the couple joining and making a family. When its all said and done and your dress is tucked away, he's still there. The best advice I got was from my mom. "From the beginning. Work as one, do everything stressful together. Always make sure he feels like he's worthy to be beside you and your worthy of his time".
April 13, 2014
Hands down it was my wife wanting us to spend extra money on a REALLY PROFESSIONAL Wedding Photographer. I mean this guy had years and years of experience and a resume with a references list longer than my arm. Since I hadn't seen her wedding gown, I couldn't understand why she was so-ooo keen on getting such a High Dollar photographer. Stop. Let me tell you. I'd known my gal for more than ten years before the wedding, so not much about her I didn't already know. Little did I know.
When the "Wedding March" started, and I turned around to look up at her coming down the aisle, with her in that gown, it simply sucked all the air out of me. I was gobsmacked. I forgot everything -- blanked out, almost. The whirl of everything after that was all just a blur.
I missed my own wedding, and I WAS there. The wedding photos were the only record my mind could refer to. And they were as stunning as her in that wedding dress.
My advice, paying it forward, is this: Go ahead and spend the extra bucks for a really professional, highly experienced, wedding photographer. Oh, and always, always, LISTEN to your wife.
Weddings are stressful!!! But Professional Wedding Planners think of everything. Get a Professional Wedding Planner who will make things happen exactly how you want them to happen, a Professional Wedding Planner who save you money, and make your wedding as stress-free, beautiful, and memorable as possible. There's no reason for your focus to be on anything other than "Your Special Moment" so let your Planner take care of everything for you.
"Pick your battles."
NEVER complain to your parents about your fights or disagreement. You will forgive one another - they will not !
your spouse has to be your best friend and you must have the ability to tell anything to them, that they know your past and dont judge you, and have acceptance of who each other is and who you will become otherwise it will not work out.
My father had told me this when I was about to get married" Two people can view the same thing but see it differently".
Best advice was received from my now hubby when we were planning our wedding was "Don't stress about the things that you cant control".
Be a guest at your own wedding- hire an event planner.
The best advice I have received is to be open to change and allow your love for one another to expand and grow. It gives for an exciting ride!.....