Congrats on your upcoming wedding! I completely emphathize with your sense of overwhelming anxiety as your special day approaches and the uncomfortable squeeze of finances hovering above you. I married while I was a resident in professional school and had to pay for everything but the venue myself. BUT, I had an awesome wedding! :0) My advice to you would be the following:
1. Dont lose sight of why you are here - its honestly far too easy to blow things out of proportion and lose sight of the real meaning. Dont do it. Keep yourself grounded and ENJOY your wedding - dont fret the small stuff. The day will come and go and not many people will remember if you have heart shaped butter or not (believe me! :0)).
2. Spend your money on the things that matter most to you. We are all different - for some, the dress is THE biggest priority, for others it might be the music, or the venue. Thats a personal decision. When money is tight, you really need to sit down with your significant other & prioritize what is most important to you both....and then make it happen! The other things will fall into place; it may take some extra work but it WILL happen. That is what we did & I had many special touches that were important to me and made the day special. I would just encourage you not to skimp on the wedding photos......those are one of the only tangible remembrants you have aside from your memories and you will treasure them down the road! :0)
3. Network and ask questions from those on this forum -- there is a wealth of knowledge and some wonderful experts. Pick their brains and get creative. You will be suprised at what you can make work!
As for my contributions....I can help you save with jewelry - both for yourself and your wedding party (gifts and jewels for your bridesmaids, flower girl, mother of the bride and groom, etc). I can offer you a discount for the bridal party or better yet, work with you to earn free jewelry and gifts for them by hosting a simple jewelry party - online or in your home. Whatever works best for you. Contact me for more details! :0) The jewelry has been featured in In Style Weddings, Modern Bride, Cosmo, Lucky, Real Simple, Celebrity Style, and the list goes on! Check it out, Im sure you will love it as much as I do! :0)
Congratulations again & best wishes as you start your married journey in life together,