I'm getting married May14th, 2011. Supposedely its the perfect month since not alot of people are getting married then lol i think otherwise.
My fiance is in the army and he has to go to school for his last semester so its all up to me.
I have a quick question..
If I have contact with a banquet hall that doesn't stipulate the cost of a child, is it possible to cancel the contract and receive my deposit back? When I called the manager, he said the price is the same but he has a different meny for kids. Meanwhile the kids don't drink (its an open bar) and there's no way they're goign to eat a 5 course meal. Does anyone know of any info?
look at your contract and see what all it says. open bar also means unlimited pop or juice. and make sure the price is truly
worth it. there are certain time frames where you can cancel but you stil have to pay a fee
Thanks for the info. I actually was able to speak to him in a "calming manner" lol and we brought down the price for the kids.
Now at least I can afford buying pretty centerpieces then cheap crap. lol Sorry I'm very blunt.
I can honestly say, planning the wedding isn't as bad as you think it may be.
Im going to give you some tips on planning your wedding.
Set realistic goals. Like if you want to get married in less then a year, make sure to take some time off work to be able to go see reception halls, photo, church/ceremony sites,… and book 2 hrs intervals. Normally when going to check a place out it doesn’t take more then an hour but you want to have enough time to get to the other place and have a break for a quick bite to eat. Remember you’re human and still need food!
I'm well organized and love to write everything down so I bought a binder with seperators, with those plastic paper holders (for when the papers I get don’t have wholes), and a note pad. If I see something, I write it down because one thing I’ve learned is you forget everything from one moment to the next. Also make notes of the questions you want to ask before you meet your vendors. Trust me, you’ll go blank. Thank god for my fiance!
I got engaged back in January 2010 and since my fiance was away for 3 months, first thing I did was getting quotes from all sorts of vendors. Ones I liked and didn't like. That helped alot in comparing prices. I also made a list with my fiance of what is important to me and what's important to him. We're pretty much on the same ball so that was good.
Like for instance, "limos" they're not as important to me or need to be expensive since its only for a couple of hours and then you take your own car or taxi at the end of evening. Why not spurldge on something more meaningful so we decided instead of booking two 6 or 8 seaters (by the way, the law in Quebec Canada stipulates that you can only have a maximum of 8 people in one limo even if it holds 20), we made sure to have the excact people that would come in our limo and webooked one 8 seater and an antique which is something we both wanted. We wanted to make sure our wedding party we're taken care of but in the end the worse case scenario is someone takes a car or gets driven to the pictures. Instead of spending $1500 or more, we're spending less then $1000 with tip!
Make a budget from the beginning. Try to figure out the place you want your wedding to be and see how many people you can afford to be there. Its much easier to cut people then you think. You just have to be cut throat. Remember, family comes before friends, friends come before co-workers, and co-workers come before aquaintances. Make sure you cut people from the bottom up if you need be.
Another great tip, is when doing your budget, include a tip for all services. In my case, the reception hall includes the tip in the price so I don't have to calculate extra. The DJ, photo,video, and limo don't include tip so try to reaserach oline or even ask the person you made the contract with what's the general rule for tipping.
I also found alot of decor online that certain vendors provide at a much higher price. For example, the guest book with pen and pillow and flower girl basket generally sell at about $100...I found them all on ebay in bundles or even seperates. In my case, I'm having 3 flower girls so i didn't buy a bundle and I don't need a photo album, so i bought the guest book seperately and the pillow and I'm looking at sellers that sell more then one flower basket and try to make them offers for a better price. It never hurts to ask. All this is costing me approx $50! All the little things I save, comes out big in the end or at least I can use it for something else.
Try to get the manufacturer and item# from centerpieces or favors you might like. I’m Greek and we generally give out boubounieres and favors (it's the same thing but one is bigger $ then the other). Try to find wholesalers online or bulk purchases. You can save a lot. And did you know, Wallmart orders in bulk for you too. My wedding boubouniere is a photo album 4x6 of 50 photos. I placed an order and got them all at once. You can check before you purchase to make sure that they're the right ones..ect. Which a lot of times you can’t do online and then return. With wallmart, if there’s something wrong, you don’t have to buy the items. And they have a great quality control so you can trust to get them perfect. Just give enough time to order and then receive them. It can take 3-6weeks to receive anything. This also can help you with your dress. I have a dress I love that they quoted me $2000 with alterations and all but I also found it only for $1000 less with shipping which is free in most places. Go to the wedding stores, try on all sorts of dresses, make notes of the dresses you like, and see what size fits you. Then you can order it online (try always a little bigger just in case), and have the alterations done once received. It will save you lots of $$$$ I’m getting a cuture dress for $1000!!! Come on, now that’s a steal!
A coordinator for the day of your wedding is like a wedding planner. She/he makes sure people know where to go, make sure flowers and decor is done, and any wedding disasters are averted. Remember to make a list of your vendors and phone#s so that if something happens, you can quickly call them before you burst into flames.
If I come up with more tips. I’ll let you know.
Good luck to all. And enjoy the time. Let the downers be and associate yourself with the people that are so excited, they want to jump out of their skin to help you.
And take the help!!! You need it!