I am getting married for the 2nd time, but it is my fiances' first marriage. We would like to have a small wedding with about 50 guests (all family), but I am having a terrible time figuring out how to make the ceremony nice without being too formal. I think I would like to have the ceremony and the reception all in the same place. Any ideas would be greatly appreciate.
October 7, 2010
There are really no official rules for 2nd or 3rd marriages. These days, it is a "mixed bag." So, if you want a formal wedding, do so. If you want something simple, a beach wedding or garden wedding is appropriate with a simple A-line gown, a lovely feather with diamond broach in your hair, and a smaller bunch of flowers would look beautiful on you. You may consider a day event, like on a Sunday afternoon, and offer a champagne toast with a variety of wines and beers instead of hard liquor. A sunday is a good day because hotels and venues usually charge cheaper rates. You should still get a dj or a small band to play your wedding song and popular music. You can also do a Sunday wedding breakfast on a yacht. Believe it or not, the prices have come down significantly and you can have your ceremony before the ship takes off. And then cruise away and enjoy your reception. Again, the food could be simple, like steak and eggs, other breakfast favorites, with meats, great coffee, mimosas, champagne and a variety of wine. Get some wedding books that focus on your city It may be worth it to pay a wedding planner the $1,000 or so to get it done for you, however, most venues do have an in-house planner, who could help you with simple decor, flowers and meal plan.
Your bridal party could wear shorter dresses, and khaki suits and your hubby could dress in ivory or black, whichever looks best.
My ideas are related to "entertainment" for you and your wedding. You would probably want to forego some activities during your reception. Consider doing a "bouquet hand-off" rather than a toss, and forget about the garter altogether. Outdoor weddings are great and often less formal. Concentrate on the social aspect of your wedding more, instead of concentrating on the religious and traditional aspects.
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Congratulations to the both of you....I am a planner in Texas if you need one....I don't know which part of Tx your in but, Ft Worth has a wonderful Garden with different settings...It's not to formal and it would also depend on the month your getting married in. If you just need some suggestions in your area I will be glad to give you some or, if you need a planner I would be glad to do the job.
Well thank you for your post. I am unfortunately not in the NY/NJ area, I am in Texas, but I love the image that you posting gives me so maybe it will be a starting point.
First of all, congratulations! I just had the pleasure of officiating for a great couple who had their wedding at a sweet little restaurant on the Hudson river. The vibe was casual, but elegant; the ceremony was right at the restaurant, outside on the patio, and then they went right to passed hors d'oeuvres and champagne. Just about 40 minutes or so later, they all came into the main building for a first dance and then a late lunch. It was so gracious and it fit them perfectly.
If you are in the NY/NJ area, I'd be happy to recommend several charming, friendly restaurants that might be just perfect for you.